In today’s connected world, our phones, social media accounts, and smart devices can help us stay in touch, work remotely, and navigate daily life. But for survivors of domestic violence, this connectivity can also be used against them.
Digital abuse—controlling, monitoring, or harassing someone using technology—is a growing form of abuse. Through the use of digital technology, abusers are finding new ways to exert control long after the relationship has ended.
At Bridges Domestic Violence Center, we recognize that safety now includes digital safety. Understanding how technology can be misused is the first step toward protecting yourself and reclaiming your independence.
Understanding Digital Abuse
Digital abuse can take many forms. Some of the most common include:
- Monitoring social media activity without consent
- Using GPS or location-sharing features to track movements
- Installing spyware on a survivor’s phone or computer
- Accessing personal accounts by stealing passwords
- Flooding survivors with messages, calls, or online threats
- Controlling access to technology
These tactics are designed to isolate, intimidate, and control. And because they often happen behind screens, they can be harder to detect—but are just as harmful.
How Abusers Use Smart Devices to Control
Abusers may misuse everyday technology, such as smart home systems, location-sharing apps, and voice assistants, to monitor or intimidate survivors, even after separation. These tools can allow remote control of lights, locks, or thermostats, track movement, or even eavesdrop through devices like Alexa or Google Home.
While digital risks can’t be completely eliminated, these steps can help survivors stay safer online:
1. Check Devices for Tracking: If you suspect monitoring, have your phone or computer checked by a trusted tech expert or domestic violence center. Use a safe device (like a library computer) for sensitive searches or conversations.
2. Update Logins: Change all passwords and enable two-factor authentication. Logout of all accounts when not in use.
3. Limit Location Sharing: Turn off GPS, app permissions, and social media location tags.
4. Tighten Social Media Privacy: Adjust settings to limit who can see your posts. Avoid sharing real-time updates, and block any suspicious accounts.
Even small digital safety changes can help survivors reclaim control and protect their privacy.
Creating a Digital Safety Plan
Just as survivors create a physical safety plan, it’s important to develop a digital safety plan. That might include:
- Keeping a list of emergency contacts saved offline
- Setting up new email or social media accounts
- Notifying trusted friends or family of your situation
- Reaching out to organizations like Bridges for support and guidance
Reclaiming Your Digital Space
When used safely, technology can be a powerful tool for connection, healing, and independence. The goal isn’t to live in fear of tech—but to understand how it can be misused, and how to stay one step ahead.
At Bridges Domestic Violence Center, we are committed to supporting survivors not only physically and emotionally, but digitally. Whether you’re just learning about digital abuse or need help securing your online presence, we’re here for you.
Let’s talk—contact us today, and take the first step toward a safer, more empowered future.